The other day, by the blazing fire of bbq coals on a cold cold winter night, I met an interesting young woman. She is currently pursuing a degree to become a Chartered Accountant (this information is not necessary, but, it makes me proud to see a young woman with dreams). So, well we got talking as most women do (another stereotype, that is totally getting onto my nerves !). The topic of discussion was women, our place in society and our 'boundaries'. Knowing how opinionated I am, and am proud to be, the word boundaries did not go down too well with me, and hence I fired up a debate.
Why do we state boundaries for ourselves ? Aren't boundaries, primarily constricting ? I would prefer limits, not that a choice of word would change the emotion. But, boundaries and societal and limits are personal. At least according to me. Limits are when I decide that one glass of red sherry is just about all I can take, and boundaries are when society states that a man can drink but to a woman, it is taboo. How so ? Isn't drinking universally a bad idea ?
We have, as women, limited our horizons by our own will. We have succumbed to stereotypes and agreed to being the weaker sex, mind you, 'weaker' not 'fairer'. So, as the discussion progressed we spoke about the cage that is self created. We have agreed that we belong within the four walls of a home, OUR home, yet we fight to survive the fast paced economic rat race. We have agreed that OUR man must only and only come back to OUR house, but step out and find solace in OTHER men. So who is really confused ? Us ? Or the men ?
I would say, its time we analyse our own roles in our own lives. Striving to be something that we don't even completely agree with. This young cyclone wants to be a 'working woman' but has set boundaries ? Dreams are endless, aspirations are limitless. Then where does boundary feature ?
We are desperate, desperateee for our spot in the sunshine, yet we are running farther away from it by succumbing to the dogmas that surround us. Who do we WANT to BE ? Where do we WANT to GO ? Or are we just fighting the battle with the MEN because it seems like that's what everyone is doing now ? Are the men in our lives really threatening our individuality ? Or are we analyzing them based on what we 'hear' ? Are we one of the few fortunate women whose spouses don't physically and mentally abuse them and actually allow them the privilege to fight for their rights or are we the oppressed lot who get burnt, beaten and murdered ?
If we don't fall into the abused category and are primarily well taken care of , then what is all the noise about ? Are we using the current woman's Lib forum to manipulate our partners ? Or perhaps just to gain sympathy ? Yes, there are women out there who are being treated like lesser humans, so ? So, let's help THEM ! Let's look into the various issues that ACTUALLY surround women on a daily basis rather than whining to our actually caring spouses that they did not clear the trash out in time. So what if they didn't ? Well, nor did we !
I'd say, let's take out the trash once in a while, let's make breakfast on the weekend for once, let's go out to the park with the kids, let's NOT do our nails this week ! And let's go out there, find out what's troubling women with real problems, pull up socks and get down to helping make a REAL difference , and well, let's just stop whining about the men who we have, who do their best, EVERY DAY ! :)
Here is where, your opinion is being sought out, do you or don't you agree that we are complaining for NOTHING ? Are there boundaries ? Do we need to keep within society's idea of what we CANNOT do ?
Thank you for your time, and I hope the answers help. Please don't get catty on me ! ;)
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